The end of one year and the beginning of the next often seems to be a time to reflect on what’s past and envision what might be created in the new year. This new year will be presenting many of us with opportunities to step up like never before!
But opportunities don’t usually come gift-wrapped and without their challenges.
One of the things I recognize as a stumbling block has been (and sometimes, still is!) caring far too much about what other people think of me – and letting that concern stop me from moving forward with what my heart has nudged me to do. It goes something like this: Get an intuitive thought. Get really excited. Think of my first step. Start thinking of certain other people’s (typically negative) reactions. Start thinking it’s probably a pretty dumb idea. Give up on the idea. Get discouraged and disappointed (mostly with myself). Struggle to remind myself I’m not REALLY a failure (even though that nagging voice tells me I am – constantly). Ouch!
Wouldn’t it be an adventure to…
Dance like no one is watching,
Live like you’ll never be hurt
Sing like no one is listening
Live like it’s heaven on earth.
– William Purkey
Take this tip from nature: The woods would be a very silent place if no birds sang except those who sang best. – Bernard Meltzer
If you’ve been raised in a family where looking good or being approved of is a top value, it’s easy to get caught up in what others think of you. You may hold yourself back from doing things that you’d enjoy for fear of what others will think or do or say. What if you could be set free from those concerns and constrictions?
What would you do if you really didn’t care what anyone else thought about it?
What would you do if you knew you could not fail – because every attempt at something new was really a success? What would you do if you were set free from the bondage of relying on other people’s opinions more than your own knowing?