A couple of months back, I shared one of my favorite poems, The Guest House. In the poem, Rumi writes that all our feelings and emotions are like guests to our home and that we should welcome them – even if they seem to wreak havoc.
As a lifelong “good girl,” the thought of welcoming some of my stronger, less pleasant emotions was uncomfortable. Those strong emotions weren’t welcome in my family of origin, so I didn’t have much opportunity to learn how to embrace them and let them move through!
Instead, I became afraid of the BIG emotions like anger. And they kept feeling bigger and bigger because they were being shoved down and under such pressure, that once in a while they did blow – and I invariably regretted it!
Over the years, I’ve practiced welcoming more of the strong emotions, honoring them and recognizing that if I don’t try to shut them out, they are more gracious guests – coming in, having some tea, and leaving. That’s been helpful.
But recently, I caught a video that takes the welcoming a step further! Matt Kahn suggests CELEBRATING whatever arises, whichever guest knocks at your door! Whoa!
The message is powerful and a little mind-boggling. I have to admit, it took me several tries to get through the whole video (and it is long), but I encourage you to give it a try – or two or three. It really is worth it!
In the week or so since I first watched the video, I’ve experienced some profound changes in the way I’m holding my thoughts and feelings. Much less self-condemnation. A lot more humor. YAY!